REMA- 8 Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship This Christmas
In Nigeria especially, the season comes with plenty noise — traffic, family visits, Detty December pressure, endless cooking, and expectations flying from every direction. In the middle of all that, romance can easily take a back seat. But with a little intention, Christmas can actually bring you and your partner closer.
Forget matching pyjamas for Instagram. Here are eight simple but powerful ways to spice up your relationship (or marriage) this Christmas and deepen your connection.
1. Start With a Private “Us Day” Before the Family Takes Over
Before travelling or hosting relatives who show up unannounced, create a day that belongs to just the two of you.
Take time off. Stay indoors. Order food or cook together. Wear something comfortable but attractive. Play music. Talk. Nap. Touch. Laugh.
That intentional isolation helps you reset emotionally and physically before the chaos of the season kicks in.
2. Get Creative and Thoughtful With Gifts
Gifts don’t always have to be expensive or material. The best gifts come from understanding your partner — what they need right now and what truly makes them happy.
If your partner has had a stressful year, a quiet staycation or uninterrupted rest might mean more than jewellery or designer items. Sometimes, the thought behind the gift matters more than the price tag.
3. Plan a Romantic Christmas Date Night at Home
Who says dates must happen outside? With everything going on, an indoor date might be exactly what you both need.
Set the mood:
Low lights or candles
Soft music
Phones away
Intentional conversation
Cosy, quiet moments often reignite intimacy better than crowded outings.
4. Turn Small Traditions Into “Your Thing”
You don’t need grand gestures to feel connected. Create small Christmas rituals that belong to just you both:
Cooking Christmas food together
Watching old Nollywood classics or favourite holiday movies
Exchanging handwritten notes
Sharing wishes and goals for the new year
These traditions give your relationship something to look forward to every Christmas.
5. Bring Back Playfulness (Yes, Even as Adults)
Not every moment has to be deep. Sometimes, laughter is the real glue.
Play games. Dare each other. Dance in the living room. Be silly. Be flirtatious. Leave the seriousness for the oversabi aunties and uncles.
6. Surprise Each Other
Surprises don’t have to be grand. A sweet note, a small gift tucked into a bag, or a thoughtful message can go a long way.
Simple surprises remind your partner that they’re loved, seen, and appreciated.
7. Play Dress-Up for the Holidays
Matching outfits don’t have to be loud. Coordinated colours, festive socks, or themed outfits can be fun and intimate.
You can even host a themed Christmas night just for the two of you. Get creative. Lean into your fantasies.
8. Take Care of Each Other
The holidays can be stressful. Family drama, exhaustion, and expectations can take a toll.
Show up for each other. Help with tasks. Cook for them. Listen. Reassure. Support each other through the madness.
Sometimes, love is simply choosing each other — again and again — even in the chaos.
THANKS FOR UR TIME!!!
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